About me

Imagine this (if you are a parent for a baby or a toddler, you probably already know this):

The clock shows 9 PM. You're holding your baby in your tired arms, trying to put her/him to sleep. You've been in this position for the last 2 hours. Your baby is finally asleep, but you are afraid to put her/him in cot. You know that when you'll do that, the crying will start.
In the background there might be other children which will demand your attention once you leave this room.
It has been a long day because you've been by yourself with your baby and you know the night will be long as well.

I've been in this situation with my oldest children. I had a toddler to take care of, and a baby who woke up frequently demanding her dummy. I can say from personal experience it is not easy. I was constantly  tired, cranky. It put a strain on my relationship with my partner.

Once I had my twin babies, I knew that I had to become more organized about their sleep, otherwise I would not get any sleep at all.
Each twin got his/her (boy and a girl) cot. There were times when both cried simultaneously. I couldn't pick both, so I settled them while they were still lying the cot. Pretty soon they learned to settle themselves to sleep. Later on, when they got a little bit older, they used to wake each other or move their own cot to the others cot as a game. At that point I had to split them apart and each got to share a room with an older sibling. I had to be constantly creative or I wouldn't have gotten any sleep at all.

Surprisingly, being organized with the twin's sleeping arrangement made my parenthood much easier and enjoyable. I was getting my sleep and hence I had more energy within me so I could be more attentive to all my children. I was emotionally available to enjoy my parenthood.